always gotta cause a problem
I’m a modest person. When I say this, I mean physically. I’m not one of those, if you’ve got it, flaunt it type people. But I don’t begrudge those that are.
Today over at MBG, she wrote a great blog about breastfeeding in public. She, pregnant with her first, hasn’t yet experienced the fun that is public breastfeeding. And when I say this, I’m being sarcastic. It’s not fun. And here’s why.
Other people’s opinions.
I’m just feeding my baby. That is all. I’m not giving some raunchy strip tease, I’m not letting the girls hang out and I’m certainly not trying to draw attention to me.
My comment was this:
I plan my day around when Mae needs to eat. I won’t leave the house if she’s coming up on a feeding, because it’s just inconvenient for all involved. I’ve never once flashed my boob and after three kids, if I mistakenly did, I really don’t care because it’s NOT POLITE TO STARE.
However, when I’m at home, it’s boobs to the world. I only use the cover around the outdoors and strangers. And family that I’d rather not see my boobs. And I’m typically polite and go elsewhere, or sit inside the booth at the restaurant or whatever, because I hate ruffling feathers but c’mon. It’s natural. It’s healthy. It’s normal.
And I seriously don’t know why it’s any one else’s business.
Let me break it down for you and expand. As I said above, I have never purposely flashed a boob. If I have, then apologies, because the last time I willingly let someone look at my tit for fun was outside a restaurant when I had recently pierced it. I’ve grown up tremendously since then. And even then, I just let the guy look down my shirt. No Mardi Gras flashing going on here.
Now, my boobs are merely for Mae. And for the hubbs.
What I mean when I say, “boobs to the world,” it’s that I’m at home. In my four walls with the kids, the dog, the cats and perhaps my Mom. She’s got boobs. She’s seen my boobs. She’s also wiped my butt and changed my diapers. So it’s all good.
When I was in labor with Claire, my Mom was there, and it was SO WEIRD allowing her to willingly look at my hoo-ha.
When I was in labor with Luca, it was EVEN WEIRDER allowing Carly to see it.
But. Breastfeeding in public should not be frowned upon. Honestly, have any of y’all ever witnessed a woman breastfeeding her baby in public without covering herself? Because if so, shame on that woman because she makes me look bad and totally ruins my point. Point being – most women don’t want you to see their boobs any more than you want to see them. (Unless you’re some creepy perv.)
And when women who say they aren’t mothers say that it’s awkward, then don’t look. I’m doing my best here to cover up the girls, and I’d like to add I’m a pro at it these days, that there’s no need for your wide-eyed Bambi just got shot and strapped to the roof of a car look. Unnecessary. And I’m not just going to formula feed my baby when I’m out and about because it makes you more comfortable. For any person reading who hasn’t breastfed, going many, many hours without doing so makes the girls hurt. This in turn makes me cranky.
When I had Claire, I was so nervous, so scared to breastfeed in public that I’d go into a bathroom stall to do it. Now come on, here. I was so afraid to get gawked at, or whispered about, that I fed my kid in a bathroom. Would YOU eat in a bathroom? Would you let your KIDS eat in a bathroom? No. No, you wouldn’t. Then why should I?
I’m speaking for myself here. I’m good at what I do. Most people don’t even realize that I’m feeding my baby. And what would you rather? Me discretely feeding her or you listen to her cry?
As Bob Marley says: “Don’t you look at me so smug, and say I’m going bad. Who are you to judge me and the life that I live? I know that I’m not perfect and that I don’t claim to be. So before you point your fingers, be sure your hands are clean.” -Judge Not
He also says, “The road of life is rocky and you may stumble, too. So while you point your fingers someone else is judging you. Love your brotherman!” -Could You Be Loved
So goes the Word of Bob.
*stepping off soapbox*