It has to be said.
(No one will ever change my mind on this, so don’t even try.)
Let me start by saying that I follow the moral code of personal responsibility and the notion that if something bad wasn’t stopped, then I didn’t do enough. I run my life by using common sense and compassion.
That said, I could give a shit that JoePa and Spainer were fired. Good riddance. I can honestly say that following the “minimal legal requirements” wasn’t good enough in my mind. Legalities aside, PRIDE aside, it wasn’t enough.
How do they sleep at night?
“I’ve just been really upset about it all,” said the sister of one of the boys molested by Sandusky, “because a lot of people aren’t focusing on the victims in this. And instead they’re focusing on other things, like football.”
This is what I care about. I care about those victims. All I’ve heard about since this has broken loose is about JoePa and his terrible suffering.
As a parent of three small children, it’s hard to express the rage I feel that no one helped that kid. I’ve had nightmares, wondering if he heard the door open and thought he was saved, only to hear the door open and close again.
Let that sink in.
There have been jokes made about it. People saying that those kids were “Sanduskied.” SANDUSKIED. What the fuck is wrong with people?
This has affected me to the point where I can’t sleep without dreaming about it. I keep imaging what those poor boys went through. I look at Luca and I feel sick. The thought that those who knew perhaps thought that the boys were expendable. Expendable. As if because of where they come from, it didn’t matter. That the situation will just go away.
Can you imagine what that must have been like for those boys? Have you tried? Rather, could you imagine what it’d be like if it was your son, your nephew, your grandson… your neighbor?
What if it was you? What if it was you in that shower stall, being attacked by a monster, not knowing better because you were younger, helpless and scared? What would you want? Would you think that the “minimum legal requirements” were enough for you? Would you think that if you heard someone coming in and then leaving you with that horrible man was right?
Where’s the compassion?
What is wrong with this picture?
Those boys deserved better. Sandusky, JoePa, Spainer, McQueary and all those involved have bruised egos. The boys who were RAPED have their whole lives to live with it. To live with the emotional pain and suffering. Those boys needed to be saved.
What they got were cowards.
Football is just a sport. And for the majority, it stops after high school. For most it’s not a career and it isn’t life changing.
And what is rape? It’s painful, brutal, terrifying and dehumanizing. It DOES change your life. And not for the better.
Those boys deserved better…
My thoughts are with all the victims and their families. May Sandusky rot in jail and wait for his judgement day…here and beyond.