Being a parent is hard. No matter if you work, stay at home, have one kid, ten kids, it’s hard. Your every day gets caught up and you yell irrationally; get frustrated easily; wish they’d just go to bed.
But yesterday, here in Pittsburgh, a little boy died when his mother lifted him up to see an attraction at the zoo, and he subsequently fell in and was then mauled by multiple dogs.
I have done that before. I’ve lifted my kids up to see the elephants better, or giraffes. How many kids ride on shoulders, try to climb up on the railings, or just get so frustrated because they’re so little? We’re human. We’re doing the best we can.
But how the social media has been slamming this poor mother is just disgusting. How dare they. This was a freak accident. It was awful. Those saying, “How could she just stand by and watch him be mauled?” “Why didn’t she jump in after him?” “Why did she lift him up?” “How did she let him fall?” “Why was she allowed to even have a kid in the first place?”
That just pisses me off.
Have you been in that situation before? Have you watched helplessly as your child, your sweet, kind, adorable child be eaten alive by dogs? Have you ever been in such a state of shock where you can’t move? Or worse, have you ever been held back by onlookers when all you want to do is save your kid?
Unless you were there, how do you know?
This is a tragedy. It’s a sick twist of life and it’s so very unfortunate. No one should judge that woman. She’s probably doing that plenty to herself. I have no doubt she’ll be haunted by this forever, not to mention the constant replaying in her mind of what ifs. Worse, I’m sure she wished she died instead of her baby.
I don’t even know the woman and it has haunted me for the past 24 hours since I read about it. It brings me to tears just thinking about it.
But these people who are judging that mother are no better than the pack of dogs that killed that poor boy. She knows what happened. She knows how it hurts. She knows. She knows all this. Stop. Please, just stop. Stop berating her and stop judging her. We are all damn lucky that that’s not us. That that’s not our kid or our nephew or our grandson. That our kids are safe and sound and not being ripped apart by dogs.
What happened happened. Now is the time to start to show some compassion and let that family grieve in peace.
Posted on November 5, 2012, in Cassie and tagged judge another mother and it'll bite you in the ass, pittsburgh zoo tragedy. Bookmark the permalink. 7 Comments.