When will it stop?

For a long time I used to believe that to be human, one must identify themselves with a religion. Any religion, pick a religion. I, however, never really felt any connection to any church, yet it left me feeling pretty left out. My friends all had bible study on the weekends and church gatherings that I didn’t go to, and come Monday, they were a little better friends that I had been previously. I almost felt heathen-like.

Truth is, I have a very hard time identifying myself with religion. That’s not because I don’t believe in God, because on some level I believe in a higher power, but I don’t feel the need to let it be my most defining factor. I go about my everyday and every so often something happens and I realize that there has to be something bigger than me and all of us, but it’s not often.

That said, I have no problem with people who strongly identify with religion. In my head it’s kind of like, I can’t eat mushrooms, but I understand that there are people out there who love mushrooms. That’s the beauty of being human, we get to be different.

I’m a science girl. I believe in science. I believe that cancer happens because of abnormal cells in the body have up and run amok – not because it was God’s will. I don’t believe that someone has a tough life because God believes they can handle it. And I’m so tired of hearing people use God and Jesus’s name as the be all end all. I was raised to believe that Jesus was a kind man who only wanted good, not to shame others for not being exactly like him – but to accept everyone and everything.

The way I feel about God can pretty much be summed up by a Lady Gaga song:

“There’s nothing wrong with loving who you are”
She said, “‘Cause he made you perfect, babe”
“So hold your head up girl and you’ll go far,
Listen to me when I say”

I’m beautiful in my way
‘Cause God makes no mistakes
I’m on the right track, baby
I was born this way
Don’t hide yourself in regret
Just love yourself and you’re set

I’m sure part of why I get angry with religion is that sometimes I find that religion is used as a weapon. Just the other day an article was written about a woman who was denied an abortion in Ireland because it’s illegal there. Never mind the baby was already miscarrying and the woman was becoming septic, it was illegal. And when the husband continued to press for an abortion for the health of his wife, the doctor responded, “This is Catholic country.”

Veterinarians treat cattle better than those doctors did their patient.

So, what I’m having such a hard time understanding is why is religion mixed in medicine? From what I’ve gathered there’s a fundamental difference between science and religion, in that science can be proven and religion is more beliefs and hope. We all need to have beliefs and hope, but that’s what it is. Beliefs and hope. Science is a bit harder to discredit when there’s physical proof. So even though the woman in question was Hindu, she had to be held to Irish Catholic standards and therefore died.

Now I know that stories like these give the Catholic Church a bad name, and I realize that not all Catholics believe this, the fact remains. In Ireland, this woman was left to die because of religion, not science.

So I’ll ask again, why is religion in medicine? That woman had the right to life. She had the right to grieving over her miscarriage and in a few months or years, try again. She had the right to live a long full life with her husband. But because of some bogus law, she lost that right. And she died in pain.

I guess what makes me the most angry is that I sit here and I look at my girls and I wonder if they’ll grow up in a time where women are finally seen as equals to men 100%. That our lives are valued and we’re allowed to make decisions for ourselves. I don’t understand where a law gets to say what I can or cannot do to my body. If it’s something you believe, then that’s your belief and your right to push that upon yourself – not me. I know it’s a cliche, but I’m pretty certain that if men were having babies, life would be a lot different. So often there is more emphasis on an unborn child then there is that of children that are alive and living in orphanages. So often there is more emphasis on pro-birth rather than pro-life. So often is welfare frowned upon, yet it’s sometimes the only option to keep someone fed.

I want to know when double standards will end. I want to know that medicine will always put the human living and breathing first. I want to know that a woman’s life is just as valued as her male counterpart.

For me, “The world is my country, all mankind are my brethren, and to do good is my religion.” -Thomas Paine


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Posted on November 15, 2012, in Cassie. Bookmark the permalink. 14 Comments.

  1. This is a terrible story. However, it’s not reigion and *medicine*, it’s religion and LAW (slash politics). Abortion is illegal in Ireland. That’s not medicine, that’s politics. That doctor would have been tried for murder if he had aborted the baby (ironic and tragic: he won’t be prosecuted for “letting” the mother die. He was following the law).

    This is what the religious right want to bring to this country. I hope the moderate Republicans are chewing on that.

    • Agreed, and you’re right. It is politics. I’m sure our Catholic hospitals wouldn’t adhere to their beliefs instead, to law, which ours, thankfully don’t make this illegal.

      I think what set me off so much was the fact that he said, “This is Catholic country.” No need for that. State it’s law.

      I still, obviously, don’t agree with that law.

      • Hm. I wouldn’t trust a Catholic hospital in the U.S. to choose between the life of a baby and a mother. And I say that as a Catholic. The only difference here is that a doctor who refused to save the life of the mother could (and should) be prosecuted.

      • Yeah, I wouldn’t trust a Catholic hospital either. My sister had miscarried and I don’t know who the final decision rested on – the doctor (who put me on birth control and my sister on Mirena so I’m guessing it probably wasn’t him) or the administration – but she was past 20 weeks so they forced her to give stillbirth.

  2. I JUST read an article about that horrible horrible story five minutes ago. I was and still am flabbergasted that this is possible in today’s world. I mean, if I try, I can understand where the people who are against abortion come from, although I don’t agree. But when someone is against abortion even after rape or if the life of the mother is in danger, that person, to me, is being inhuman. For me, a life is a life, and why should a state have the right to say that the life of the baby/fetus is more important than that of the mother? And, when the fetus is already miscarrying, it is even more absurd. I mean, what is that? Punishment for being a woman who wanted to have a baby? Do you give up your right to live because you got pregnant? Apparently, in Ireland, this is the case. This makes me so sad and angry!

  3. I was shocked. Mostly because it’s not a part of the Pro-life movement I adhere to. If the baby is dying and killing the mother the PRO LIFE thing to do is to terminate the pregnancy, because the baby is already going to die. No CHANCE of survival. Especially if it’s gone septic. Mama won’t survive? Baby definitely won’t survive without her… duh.

  4. That’s horrible. How is it abortion is the baby is already miscarrying? Doesn’t make a lick of sense.
    We have a very Catholic hospital here in Pittsburgh and they adhere to the “Catholic law” but they WILL refer a patient elsewhere for those procedures they won’t do, like tubal ligation, vasectomy, etc.
    Better no one tell me what I can and can’t do with my body.

  5. I guess this story makes that politician that said that science is too advanced now that a woman’s health can never be threatened by a pregnancy, look like an ignoramus. Or does it not count because it didn’t happen in Amurca?

  6. I could not agree more with this post. I am in no way anti religion but in scenarios like this where it is used as a weapon and essentially harms a person I just dont understand it. I get that as humans we all need hope and religion gives us that hope but stripping a woman of life is not the right of religion in my eyes.

  7. It was really genius of the maker-uppers of Christianity to add those bits to the Bible that tell people to go out and preach to the world and that the Christian God is the only true god. Because while you may be able to accept the person who likes mushrooms, Christians are told they’re not allowed to accept you.

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