Common sense and compassion
One thing I try to do over here at Sisters from Different Misters is to not talk about my personal beliefs and politics. If you’ve read me long enough, you can pretty much connect the dots and figure that I’m an educated liberal who believes in being kind above all things.
I try not to let politics define who I am. I’m so much more than Dem or Republican. So much more than black and white. I am a person who attempts to put myself in someone else’s shoes to see how it would feel. I’m a person who thinks common sense is paramount as is compassion and patience. Lastly, who are we to judge?
I have a hard time telling someone they’re wrong simply because I don’t believe the same as they do.
But when it’s something having to do with saying, “I can have this, but you cannot, because you’re different and icky,” I say you’re wrong.
Why is it that I got to marry the love of my life, yet some people out there have to fight to get a domestic partnership? Why is it that some have to petition and protest and be called all kinds of degrading things just to have a normal life? Why do we call some people bad for following their heart, compare them to dirt and scum and throw hot coffee at them as they fight for a marriage?
Nothing about that is loving or kind.
Last night before I went to bed, I was happily overwhelmed by how many people were changing their profile pictures to support marriage equality. But of course, there were the few naysayers out there saying how it was ‘stupid’ to think that by sharing photos, changing profile pictures, or even supporting the idea was bogus.
I thought about it all night, to be honest. And at Audrey’s 6 am feeding, I finally put pen to paper, er, facebook:
“I understand that by simply changing my profile picture I’m not doing anything directly to help the Supreme Court make their decision. However, by caring enough to change it and show support, it means I am teaching my children how to love and respect all kinds of people and that I am a person who loves and respects all kinds of people. The Supreme Court is one thing, but I am trying to stop hate and teach love at the source – the next generation. So yes. I support marriage of all kinds, family and love. Pass it on.”
I. Me. I am doing what I can as a parent, and as a human being, to try to stop the hate and the discrimination. Years ago, people fought for marriage equality in the form of interracial marriage. Why should the color of your skin determine who you get to love? So I ask, why should your gender do the same? Love is love. Some look their whole lives for love, and to deny someone that right to be recognized that most couples take for granted is wrong.
One day, one of my kids may come to me and tell me they’re gay. So goes life. I will still love them as much then as I do right at this very moment. And I hope that if that is ever the case, I get to dance at their wedding.
They are my kids, I love them. Nothing will change that.
Please think twice before you judge or hate. Who are you benefiting – but mostly who are you hurting? And is it worth it in the end?