The forgotten one.
I’m laying in bed and I can’t sleep. My head is swimming with a million different things. But mostly – On Wednesday, my only son will be going off to kindergarten. I’m not sure how I feel about it. He’s ready, that’s for certain. But I feel as though he will be forgotten.
I often refer to Luca as my forgotten child. Not forgotten by me, hopefully. One thing I pride myself in as a parent is the fact that I give each of my kids the attention they deserve. While it often seems like the girls get all my attention because of Claire’s taekwondo and fundraising and Audrey’s the baby, and everyone loves Mae, Luca gets a lot of stolen moments.
I had never put a lot of stock into why Luca is my forgotten one until a bit ago, on his birthday, when someone mentioned that Mae got as many (if not more) ‘likes’ as Luca did in two separate photos I posted and subsequently how they felt bad for him. Like he would know or something.
One was a happy birthday message to Luca and the other was many hours later when Mae had her first dentist appointment. She, of course, was sitting in the dentists chair with her tutu on (because it was Thursday) and sunglasses giving me the most sassy face. I will admit, it was adorable.
I honestly don’t pay attention to likes. Maybe I should. To me, I post things on Facebook mostly because it’s my way of having adult interaction. Obviously I don’t get out much and it’s helpful. But curiosity spoke volumes and I went back and looked at photos I’ve posted over the years and found that across the board, Luca always got less love via that like button.
Social media has such a funny way of messing with your head if you let it. For a solid week I let it get to me. I never mentioned it to anyone, I just kept thinking of all the reasons why this is. Is it because he’s quiet? Bookish? Tends to be Claire’s shadow? Do I not talk enough about him? Do I not show the world how much I love him? Because anyone who knows me knows how I feel about that sweet boy. Do I not show him enough? We often share secrets and our favorite ones to tell each other is, “I love you very much,” whispered into my ear.
He’s a sweet, wonderful boy and he shouldn’t be forgotten.
So in honor of my favorite little dude entering kindergarten, I’m going to write a list of things about him that you may not know.
1. He can quote the majority of the Lego Movie. He also can tell you the name of every character, even the spaceman. (He’s Benny.)
2. He likes to sing to Raffi in his room while playing with Legos.
3. He likes audio books.
4. He can read very well.
5. His favorite color is orange.
6. Every night he gathers up a select few Legos to bring up into his loft bed. He specifically calls them his “Nighttime Legos.”
7. His favorite food is taquitos. With guacamole.
8. When he got his front tooth removed by the dentist, he never once complained. Not a one.
9. He loves Audrey. Like. He is ridiculously patient with her. It’s kind of incredible.
10. When we go to the track for runs, he immediately drops his water bottle and runs. He just loves to run.
11. He loves tomatoes.
12. He could sit and look at his Lego building idea books for hours.
13. He saves all of his Lego building instructions and uses them often.
14. Comfy pants are his favorite things to wear. Even if it’s 90 and humid.
15. He’s a thumb sucker and loves his chickie blankie. And it doesn’t bother me one bit.
Matt had asked the other day if we were going to have Luca do soccer, or baseball, or something, and I smiled and assured Matt that Luca is very happy just living life and being a kid. He goes to tae kwon do and does well enough. He reads. He builds. He imagines. He doesn’t need organized sports or a Saturday morning rush from one game to the next. Maybe some day. But for now, in this moment, he’s doing just fine.
And perhaps, just maybe, he enjoys flying under the radar.